Many of us with married kids have a similar dilemma. Our son's wife is expected to spend every major holiday with her family, and my son has to follow the program. Luckily, my husband and I are always invited to our son's in-laws' gatherings.
However, we also have close family members on our side who also want/expect to see us during holidays. So we do our best to alternate or rotate our visits each year and try to be as fair as possible. Not easy, of course.
Many of us with married kids have a similar dilemma. Our son's wife is expected to spend every major holiday with her family, and my son has to follow the program. Luckily, my husband and I are always invited to our son's in-laws' gatherings.
However, we also have close family members on our side who also want/expect to see us during holidays. So we do our best to alternate or rotate our visits each year and try to be as fair as possible. Not easy, of course.