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MJ's avatar

my neighbor initiated at first and we walked now and then and we both would take turns asking.for a couple times i was in a hurry on my way to work and also had previous commitment so had to decline.the suddenly i noticed her withdrawing.

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The Sweet Deep's avatar

This exact scenario happened to me to a T. It was a boundary issue. The introvert couldn’t handle so much contact. She cut things off with me. We went 3 months without walking together or seeing each other then one day we ran into each other where to paths connected and we said a brief hello and went our separate ways. This oddly happened three days in a row. It actually healed what happened as we spoke briefly about it. Every now and again maybe once a month or more when I run into her at the park she welcomes my company and we have a great time. I told her let’s keep each other as “happy surprises”. So we don’t schedule walks or hangouts, but when we run into each other, we will richly enjoy each other for that hot sec.

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Irene S. Levine, PhD's avatar

Sounds like an elegant solution! Thanks for sharing.

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DC Policy Geek's avatar

Great advice to explore Facebook and/or MeetUp groups! That's what I've done.

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Sheryl Kraft's avatar

Good to hear! How has it worked out for you, Angela?

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DC Policy Geek's avatar

It's worked out very well, thanks!

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Susan's avatar

How hard! It may be that your friend over shared, then didn't feel she had other options.

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Irene S. Levine, PhD's avatar

Yes, Susan. Or maybe she felt that she an obligation to share since her extrovert friend shared so freely.

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