I have a friend that I known for over 55 years we both like going to bingo but I don’t have the transportation where she does If I win a game I usually give her something for taking me home but when I want her to take me to a bingo hall, my credentials always have to be straight with her but I’m giving her money to take me home and that’s it we used to always play when we were younger but now it’s not and I confronted her many times that I would like to go to other bingo halls with her but it becomes but she might take other people better than me but why when we been together too long to not be together now I just don’t fit in to her category as a friend enough so I go alone
I think we all have a friend or two who doesn't host/reciprocate. There are a number of reasons, some valid, but one solution is to start meeting in public places for coffee, happy hour, lunch or dinner. That way, everyone pays for herself, and nobody has to clean the house before and after, or wash dishes and glasses afterward.
Having a potluck is a great idea too -- but it still means that the homeowner has to clean and provide set-ups for the food, etc.
I was that person who never hosted after my divorce. Perhaps the friend was burned out on hosting, I know I did not want to do it anymore. Her friends should have a potluck at her place to help out and that would be a good rule going forward. Simply not inviting her with no explanation is not nice, so these women should talk to her about it.
I have a friend that I known for over 55 years we both like going to bingo but I don’t have the transportation where she does If I win a game I usually give her something for taking me home but when I want her to take me to a bingo hall, my credentials always have to be straight with her but I’m giving her money to take me home and that’s it we used to always play when we were younger but now it’s not and I confronted her many times that I would like to go to other bingo halls with her but it becomes but she might take other people better than me but why when we been together too long to not be together now I just don’t fit in to her category as a friend enough so I go alone
Your friend is probably a hoarder. Case closed.
I think we all have a friend or two who doesn't host/reciprocate. There are a number of reasons, some valid, but one solution is to start meeting in public places for coffee, happy hour, lunch or dinner. That way, everyone pays for herself, and nobody has to clean the house before and after, or wash dishes and glasses afterward.
Having a potluck is a great idea too -- but it still means that the homeowner has to clean and provide set-ups for the food, etc.
Meeting in a public place is an elegant solution!
I was that person who never hosted after my divorce. Perhaps the friend was burned out on hosting, I know I did not want to do it anymore. Her friends should have a potluck at her place to help out and that would be a good rule going forward. Simply not inviting her with no explanation is not nice, so these women should talk to her about it.
You bring up a good point, Jane. It's always worth talking about it to truly learn and get a sense of what is going on. Thanks for your comment!